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More Macklemore, less Robin Thicke.

And yet a huge percentage of Tumblr hates him. Not trying to be confrontational, but could someone please explain to me why this is?

Because he is a straight white guy and Tumblr isn’t always right. 

oh my god if i have to see this post on my dashboard one more time
all right, okay. let’s talk.
last year on a slow day in law/society class, my teacher showed us a movie where charlize theron was one of the only female workers in a mine in minnesota. she experienced a fuckload of sexual harassment, ofc; it was when she started daring to complain about the sexual harassment that shit got really bad.
i remember watching charlize theron go through all these awful things, and i remember getting vaguely invested in her as a heroine; yeah, you go charlize theron, you continue to work despite these harassment and assaults, you stand up for yourself when people shun you in the community, etc
and there was this climactic scene where the miners’ union was having a meeting, and charlize theron was going up to complain about something or tell people she was suing the company or smth, i can’t remember, and she stood there in front of this huge crowd of angry men who were booing her and catcalling her and shouting the worst things at her and she’s getting really miserable
and then her father, who also works at the mine, goes up and says “hey, you’re all jerks, think of your mothers & daughters, would you treat them this way,” and the miners are like “oh wow charlize theron totally does deserve our support etc” and then the movie continues
but all i could think was— what, so they’ll listen to a man but not to the woman who’s actually affected? why doesn’t charlize theron get to save the day and be the hero? in a conversation about sexism, why is his voice more important than hers?
we’re not mad at macklemore. or— well, we are mad at macklemore, but we’re more mad at the system that prioritizes macklemore over actual queer rappers, over actual rappers of color, who have been saying exactly the same shit for decades and been ignored.
we’re mad at the system that gives more attention to straight allies than queer activists.
we’re mad at the system that only supports queer rights when they are quiet and polite and have cute graphics.
we’re mad at the system that makes macklemore a hero of of the queer struggle but doesn’t know marsha p. johnson’s name.
we’re mad at the system that will listen to macklemore when he comes to defend us— but won’t listen to us.
we’re mad at the system that has constructed itself to make damn certain that only straight cis white boys can be heroes.
it’s fuckin’ great that macklemore thought he was gay in third grade. but the system would rather give his third grade gay freakout the spotlight than our actual whole-life queer experiences— and that’s not okay.

Okay. Okay, okay, okay.
Stop right there, because the point you are trying to make is great, but you are going about it in a fundamentally flawed way, and Macklemore is really not the dude to come for. First of all, RuPaul knows Marsha P. Johnson’s name, mentions her frequently and is still a casually transphobic and cissexist Uncle Tom piece of shit, so knowing queer history is not the end all be all litmus test of how good you are at fighting the good fight. You say you’re mad at the system, but all of the hate is pointed directly at Macklemore, who, for the record, is not asking to be made the face of the queer movement. I think you’re confusing him with Madonna.
People always bring up the “good for you, you had a gay panic in third grade” line in Same Love, and they don’t fucking know what the line actually means, and even what the song is actually about or what it was written to do. That first verse is all about how we shouldn’t stamp labels on kids because they like quote on quote “feminine” things, how our society is obsessed with gender coding everything, and how feminine equals bad, and therefore gay is always feminine, because gay is bad. It’s saying that the fact that he even felt like the possibility he was gay was something that had to be cried over is proof that our society has failed. And if you fucking unwad your knickers for a second and look the damn song up, you’d discover that the reason it is focused so much on marriage is because it was meant to be a to be a campaign tool for Washington Referendum 74, the approval of which legalized marriage equality in the state of Washington (and the proceeds went to the non-profit Music for Marriage Equality. That right, Macklemore didn’t *le gasp* do it for the money). And that Macklemore approached Mary Lambert specifically because he thought there needed to be a queer artist attached to it, because he recognized that this wasn’t his fight alone. And that the single cover does not feature a picture of Macklemore, but of his gay uncles, because he was doing this for them, not for his own self benefit. America actually didn’t even discover the damn song until about a full year after it was released as a single. Almost everything people say about Macklemore and this song, that he’s trying to cash in on the queer movement, that he doesn’t understand what sort of struggles queer people actually face because he only cares about marriage, that he doesn’t listen to actual queer people, that he thinks he deserves a cookie for not being a piece of shit: It’s all fucking projection. Get off your damn high horse, and seriously, just admit that Macklemore is actually a pretty decent ally as far as it goes, and then just stop talking about it. For the love of Christ, stop wasting so much energy being preachy ass fucks about how much you hate Macklemore, therefore giving him more press and making his name more well known and wide spread instead of actually giving notoriety to the dozens of queer MCs that you seem to be talking about Macklemore stealing the spotlight from, BUT THEN NEVER FUCKING MENTION BY NAME ONCE EVER IN THESE POSTS WHERE YOU TEAR MACKLEMORE TO SHIT.
You’re feeding the fucking system that you are disparaging so much. YOU ARE FEEDING IT. I bet you don’t actually give a shit about Mykki Blanco. I bet you didn’t even know that Jipsta was attacked in New York City two weeks ago for being queer. I bet you don’t even know who Le1f is. GET THEIR NAMES OUT THERE INSTEAD OF GIVING MACKLEMORE MORE PRESS BY USING EVER OPPORTUNITY YOU CAN TO SHIT ON HIM. JUST FUCKING STOP.
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